New yorker magazine article on online dating
There appears to be an abundance of highly successful, go-getting, independent women in New York, who although on paper look like the perfect catch, can’t seem to find a suitable life partner.
Often, these women operate with their masculine energy in their corporate life, and due to repetition and habit, do not hone in to their feminine energy in their personal lives.
But in New York, dating multiple people at a time is the norm, rather than the exception.
The reality is the person you are seeing is likely seeing a few other people at the same time.
Time is limited, business is the priority, deep meaningful connections are often too much work (and time consuming), and everyone is in a constant state of over-stimulation and distraction.
In addition, the imbalanced ratio of single straight men and single straight women makes it a man’s playground of limitless options.This is a city where there is most likely an event, a class or a meet up for pretty much anything you’re interested in.Go to events where you can meet like-minded people who share a common interest with you (no, a gin and tonic does not count). New Yorkers are maximizers, and it’s common for singles to use several New York City dating sites at once.The high frequency of business travel, the hectic work schedules, and the incredible volume of new people one meets on daily basis makes it challenging to foster the conditions for a more meaningful bond to develop.You may be used to courtship as a linear progression, but it’s just not the case here. Leave the door open to the possibility of getting to know someone in a more sporadic way than you’re used to.